My Dad is a painful memory of my past. Do I invite him to my wedding ?
Wednesday, September 30th, 2009
magerrima asked:
My father is an alcoholic person who only brought pain and sadness to our family. My parents had an awful divorce 10 years ago. My brother lives with my dad, so if I invite only him, he won’t go because of my father. If I don’t invite neither my brother nor my dad, my mom won’t go because of my brother.
However, my mom already said that she will not sit on the same table as my dad, in case he’s invited.
My father is an alcoholic person who only brought pain and sadness to our family. My parents had an awful divorce 10 years ago. My brother lives with my dad, so if I invite only him, he won’t go because of my father. If I don’t invite neither my brother nor my dad, my mom won’t go because of my brother.
However, my mom already said that she will not sit on the same table as my dad, in case he’s invited.
This is so confusing ! Please help !
Another point to consider is that I decided that I will walk down the aisle by myself. If he’s invited and goes to the party, he will be for me just like any other guest. It sounds bitter, but even 10 years later I can barely look at his face. In the other hand I’d be self conscious if I don’t invite him at all to my wedding.
Am I contradicting myself ? Did anybody go through a similar situation ?
This has been harder to decide than the gown of my dreams !
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My dad wants to give me money for our wedding?
Monday, September 28th, 2009
Thriftmaster asked:
my fiance and i are paying for everything ourselves and i wouldn’t dream of asking my parents for a dime. however, my dad told me last night that he wanted to give me 1,000 dollars in february for my honeymoon. The thing is, i really want to use that money on the catering since we’re just going to the beach for a few days for our honey moon and that won’t cost too much. so two questions:
my fiance and i are paying for everything ourselves and i wouldn’t dream of asking my parents for a dime. however, my dad told me last night that he wanted to give me 1,000 dollars in february for my honeymoon. The thing is, i really want to use that money on the catering since we’re just going to the beach for a few days for our honey moon and that won’t cost too much. so two questions:
1. do you think he’ll mind that i spend it on something else? should i even bother to tell him?
2. the wedding is in June. Should february be early enough to pay for the catering? i would say yes, but i have never worked with a caterer before. we know who we want, but i haven’t met with her yet.
thanks!
total: i’m not trying to “deceive him”. honestly, i really don’t think its a huge deal.
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