My dad wants to give me money for our wedding?
September 28th, 2009
Thriftmaster asked:
my fiance and i are paying for everything ourselves and i wouldn’t dream of asking my parents for a dime. however, my dad told me last night that he wanted to give me 1,000 dollars in february for my honeymoon. The thing is, i really want to use that money on the catering since we’re just going to the beach for a few days for our honey moon and that won’t cost too much. so two questions:
my fiance and i are paying for everything ourselves and i wouldn’t dream of asking my parents for a dime. however, my dad told me last night that he wanted to give me 1,000 dollars in february for my honeymoon. The thing is, i really want to use that money on the catering since we’re just going to the beach for a few days for our honey moon and that won’t cost too much. so two questions:
1. do you think he’ll mind that i spend it on something else? should i even bother to tell him?
2. the wedding is in June. Should february be early enough to pay for the catering? i would say yes, but i have never worked with a caterer before. we know who we want, but i haven’t met with her yet.
thanks!
total: i’m not trying to “deceive him”. honestly, i really don’t think its a huge deal.
Pick The Gender Of Your Baby
September 30th, 2009 at 5:55 am
I would make sure to tell him that you would rather spend it on catering since you have already planned an inexpensive beach honeymoon. Let him decide from there.
Catering is paid for in full a few days before the wedding.
October 3rd, 2009 at 3:45 pm
If he is giving you the money as a gift, then you should be able to spend it on what you want. You don’t need to report to him how you spent every dime of it. However, do be sure to write a very nice thank you note, mentioning that you had a very nice honeymoon.
I’m sure any business would take $$ in advance… but the thing is, do you know exactly how much it will be for the catering at that point – meaning, do you know how many of your guests will RSVP? The cost of catering depends on the number of people. So, if you have to wait for that… there’s nothing wrong with just holding onto that money in a drawer or savings account until you can pay for it.
October 4th, 2009 at 11:58 am
You do not have to tell him that you are using the money for something besides the honeymoon. There is nothing wrong with using the money for something you see as more of a necessity. Once you meet with the caterer you will find out when you will need to make your first payment and so forth. Good luck!
October 6th, 2009 at 8:25 am
He wants to give it to you for your honeymoon. That’s pretty clear English if you ask me. He wants you to have a nice honeymoon. Don’t use it on the catering. Deceiving your father on the use of the gift says a lot more about the character of the posters who posit that choice.
October 8th, 2009 at 10:59 pm
sweetie i will be honest cut the food down an give some cheep old food to your guests everyone knows overall wedding food is not all that . and take that 1,000 an blow it on your honeymoon and make memories. go to a local horse ranch and ride some horses go and do the little things you would have to save up on to do and take millions of fotos overall a wedding is the start of two people why should you pay off the wall for others to eat on your special day.
October 12th, 2009 at 2:07 am
Hi and congratulations!
If it was me, I would give him a big “thank you,” but still be honest. “Dad, I don’t think we will need the total $1,000 for our honeymoon. Do you mind if we use some of it towards the cost of the catering for the reception?” I really don’t think he will mind.
For the caterer: Don’t PAY for the catering entirely up front. You will want to put down a deposit to hold your date, etc., but don’t pay for anything before you have received the service!! I am sure once it gets closer, you will need to put down more money, but, again, don’t pay in full prior to the wedding. What if something were to happen and they skip town? Also, get a contract and go over things with the caterer.
Good luck and I hope you have a beautiful day!
October 14th, 2009 at 12:59 pm
Most caterers need a deposit of a set amount based on the amount that you are spending. Most likely the payment will not be due in full until around 30 days prior to the event. Like I said that is with most. Ask your specific caterer before hand so there is no surprises. Good luck.