I cant plan a decent wedding?
September 27th, 2009
taradelynn777 asked:
Okay so my wedding is set for december 19th of this year,, although it might have to be moved up to the 30th due to family stuff. anyway, my date isnt changing from this december, so what i really need is some advice on how to go about this in a cost effeiciant way! i wanted a nice wedding, but my parents aren’t with me. his parents on the other hand, want some kind of ceremony and won’t let it go. i would like a nice simple thing, but im worried some of my ideas are cheap. like since its a afternoon i was just gonna have some vegtable trays and fruit, some desserts and a cake and then punch. we are a young couple so there wont be any drinking. we are thinking with a simple wedding we can still invite everyone we want to without it affecting the price. is it wrong to say my wedding party just get their own dress? it can be whatever they choose together its only my sister and best friend. and what kind of decorations are pretty that are still simple and unexpensive?? BTW our wedding is not christmas themed, its lavendar and off white. any ideas would be sooo great i am in tears! i’ve been planning this since march and im no closer to any answers and the big day is a couple months away! HELP!
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Okay so my wedding is set for december 19th of this year,, although it might have to be moved up to the 30th due to family stuff. anyway, my date isnt changing from this december, so what i really need is some advice on how to go about this in a cost effeiciant way! i wanted a nice wedding, but my parents aren’t with me. his parents on the other hand, want some kind of ceremony and won’t let it go. i would like a nice simple thing, but im worried some of my ideas are cheap. like since its a afternoon i was just gonna have some vegtable trays and fruit, some desserts and a cake and then punch. we are a young couple so there wont be any drinking. we are thinking with a simple wedding we can still invite everyone we want to without it affecting the price. is it wrong to say my wedding party just get their own dress? it can be whatever they choose together its only my sister and best friend. and what kind of decorations are pretty that are still simple and unexpensive?? BTW our wedding is not christmas themed, its lavendar and off white. any ideas would be sooo great i am in tears! i’ve been planning this since march and im no closer to any answers and the big day is a couple months away! HELP!
Sign Language For Babies And Beyond
September 29th, 2009 at 5:04 pm
Give up your vows.
October 3rd, 2009 at 3:27 am
ohh wedding
congrats!!!!!:D
well wedding is so i portant of your life its one in a life time(some)heheh
well,,youw ant to be special of course,,if you want it to be special,,,you should do it in the special place too..like the fist church that you guyz went together, or beach wedding well its december s yeah its cold:D or garden wedding:D
it doesnt really matter the thing that matter is how do you say “i do”
it shoujl;d have love in ot it:D
you can do it no worries as long as you love each other:D
goodluck:D
congrats again:D
October 3rd, 2009 at 3:58 pm
Ok slow down a bit. First off you need to remember the reason for this great day. It is to exchange vows and love with the person you love and are going to spend the rest of your life with.
Other than that, plan what you would like to do. If someone has a problem because there isnt a 5 course meal there for them, that is their problem. No matter what you decide to do, do it for you and your fiance and who cares what other people think.
October 3rd, 2009 at 5:35 pm
Here are some ideas:
1. Have only one bridesmaid, either a best friend or sister.
2. If you have more than one bridesmaid, ask them to buy their own dresses, of their choice, all in black with a lavendar sash/scarf/shawl or flower that you provide (so they all coordinate). All should wear similar shoes (e.g. closed toed 1″ to 2″ leather heels)
3. Find a location/venue that will do catering. For example, some restaraunts have a banquet room and will do catering for a flat fee and let you use the room as part of it. Or, if you have a friend or family member in town (maybe one of his family members) who will let you have the ceremony at their house.
4. Buy a used wedding dress. There are some really nice ones out there and trust me on this — re-sell it when you are done with it. It is useless to hang it in your closet for the rest of your life.
5. For wedding gifts, if people ask, request gift certificates or cash.
6. For decorations, use silk flowers on every table with a simple vase. Buy some tulle fabric to make bows on the backs of every chair. Let the restaraunt provide the table cloth and place settings.
7. Photography is important. If you pay for anything, pay for a photographer. You should not have to pay more than $500. Better yet, ask a friend who is an amatuer photographer if s/he will do it for you for $100. Be sure you ask whether you are provided with a CD/DVD of the photos after, so ordering them isn’t overly costly.
Weddings don’t need to be expensive. Like my mom said, “There is always magic at weddings, not matter how extravagent.”
October 6th, 2009 at 3:37 pm
You might want to look at working with a wedding planner at a hotel in a nice setting. The advantage there is that you have an experienced staff that can quickly solve problems as they come up. You do not have the logistics of transporting between ceremony and reception. You also have an obvious place for out of town guests to stay. Having things go smoothly might be worth the extra cost.
October 8th, 2009 at 8:58 pm
I’m sorry you’re so stressed about this.
First of all, yes, it is completely acceptable to not serve a meal. I got married at 2pm precisely to save money and not have to do a full meal. We did fruit and veggie trays, cheese and crackers and then a few hot appetizers like mini quiche. I’ve been to a wedding where all they had was cake and punch and that’s fine too. Don’t do dessert in addition to the cake. Its too much sweet.
Most bridesmaids do pay for their own dresses. You aren’t expected to pay for it unless you’re being really nice and can afford it. As long as you don’t make them buy some $300 gown they should be ok with it.
For decorations, I won’t do too much. We had our reception at a church. The church let us use their white, cloth tablecloths. We put a colored napkin in the middle of the table, put 3 small tealight candles on it and one small vase with tulips. Flowers can be really expensive so you could even just do the candles with a little bowl of chocolates or something.
The most important thing to remember is that the day is about you getting married. Anyone that comes, is coming because they love you and want to celebrate with you. You don’t have to impress them by having an extravagant wedding. Some of the best weddings I’ve been to were done on tiny budgets. They were meaningful because you could tell how in love the couple was and that it wasn’t about being a princess for a day.
Congrats and good luck!
October 10th, 2009 at 4:14 am
Where are your parents? How old are you?
Perhaps you should take the Christmas theme and run with it since at that time of year most venues are decorated for it anyway.
If you are gearing towards an afternoon reception why not call your venue/caterer to see how much a breakfast brunch would be per plate. Often times these brunches are inexpensive in comparison to the regular dinner meal supplied at evening weddings.
If you are to young to drink and your parents do not agree with your wedding perhaps you should hold off until you are older and have some money saved.
October 12th, 2009 at 6:30 pm
OK….you need to get BUSY!! December is not far off.
First, what you have planned is PERFECTLY FINE! It is very simple and can be very elegant also! I have given this exact same idea to many who want an inexpensive wedding. Remember that “inexpensive” does not mean “cheap”….there IS a difference.
Second….do you have a church or other venue reserved already for your ceremony and your reception? If not, you had better get on that ASAP! If this is going to be at someone’s home…then you don’t need to worry about it. Or perhaps have this at your church’s fellowship hall if you are member’s of a church.
YES, the bridesmaid and maid of honor should buy their own dresses. Get them together and go with them if you want to a bridal store or a regular retailer. You may be too late now to order anything, so you may just need to go to a retail store and purchase a dress. There should be plenty of nice dresses right now with the upcoming homecoming season and holiday season arriving shortly. Look online at JC Penney also.
Decorations: Again, where is the reception going to be? You certainly can never go wrong with some floating candles in a bowl. Everything is available at dollar stores (glass container and candles.) Some like to put the colored stones in the bottom of the dish also….like this:
Hope this helps!