Archive for September, 2009

Thinking about having a surprise wedding-thoughts?

Wednesday, September 30th, 2009
Sugar Magnolia Says GO CHIEFS! asked:


Yes we are engaged, just trying to figure out how to have a “cheap” yet memorable wedding. (By the way, we already live together) My idea was to host a 1st Annual Luau Party at our home, send out invites with RSVP 2 months ahead of time, and then say, hey we are getting married today! My future father in law is a pastor, & he is going to marry us, so he will know about it. Then after the simple ceremony, we will barbecue or have a big hog roast & let everyone party down. Then every year after, we can still have are annual Luau party & celebrate our anniversary. Obviously it will only be with close family & friends, less than 100 people. I have searched for this on Y!A & see positive & negative answers. We don’t care about gifts as we have everything we need already. Any ideas from you all about how to pull this off? We really wanted a relaxing day for the wedding. I think we will have a small wedding party, maybe just 1 person standing up for each of us and my daughter as flower girl.
PS-the reason we are going “cheap” we don’t have much $$, but we have a nice big yard(rent a tent just in case) We aren’t asking our parents to help us out because we don’t want to be a burden. Thoughts??? Be nice please!
Trueee-
Its a luau, so we would put come in your best “luau” attire on the invites. It will be like a casual beach wedding, but without the sand!
As for the engagement party thing, I don’t know anyone who has ever had one! I think our friends would be suspicious if we had an engagement party….
We thought a surprise would be funny because everyone keeps asking us when we are gonna get married! Honestly, one side of me wants to have the fariy-princess wedding, but we just can’t afford it. The other side of me says, lets do it this way, cuz it would be kinda wacky & definitely original. Knowing our friends, they NEVER miss out on our parties-I guess we are fun hosts!

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What Should I Do? My MIL Is Trying to Sabotage Our Wedding!

Wednesday, September 30th, 2009
Kimberlyn asked:


My FH and I are getting married in October and his mother is driving both of us insane. He’s spoken to her about her behavior but now I’m worried that my relationship with her is screwed up forever.

First of all, she never liked me. She REALLY doesn’t want my FH to marry me. We all live in a very small town and someone that she goes to church with told her a nasty rumor that was not true about a year before my FH and I began dating. On top of that she disapproves of my modeling career, and the fact that I am not a member of her church. I am not even the same religion as she is, and she does not yet know that because my FH and I decided that it would upset her too much to know. She thinks I’m an amoral temptress who has possessed her son’s mind and is controlling him. She has been treating me badly since I first started dating him, but recently she began to soften towards me, that is, until my FH told his parents that he was going to propose to me. Then she had a breakdown and went back to being mean to me.

First she called me up and lectured me about not calling her first, although my work schedule would not permit me to call her at a suitable time, and then she demanded to know what all I planned for the wedding. She spoke over me, interrupted me, and made it sound like it was a huge imposition on my part to even ask her to show up for the wedding. She then offered to pay for and make the groom’s cake, which she had already designed. I told her that whatever she wanted to make was fine, except that the icing on the cake must not be white. At that point she blew up because she wanted to make a red velvet cake with white cream cheese icing. I asked her to put food coloring in the icing, and apparently that is absolutely impossible for her to do, even though I have personally put food coloring in cream cheese icing. Maybe she thinks I don’t know how to cook? So my FH ended up telling her that he wants a yellow cake with chocolate icing just to shut her up. Even though everyone knows that he hates chocolate. I plan to make him some red velvet cupcakes with green cream cheese icing so that he can have red velvet cake. Poor thing.

I asked her two daughters to be my bridesmaids. I love them like sisters already so I want them in my wedding for sure. My MIL said she would pay for the bridesmaid’s dresses back when we thought that we were getting married in a chapel, but then the company my father works for offered to host our wedding and reception, and since my FH and I wanted to save money we changed the location. Then she said that she refused to pay a dime for the bridesmaids dresses because we’re not getting married in her church. My FH and I both decided that we are NOT getting married in her church. My FH secretly hates the place as much as I do, but she thinks that he wants to get married there and I’m keeping him from doing it out of spite. She called up my mother (the two of them were friends years and years ago) and complained about me and lied to her about me and some of the things I’ve said and done. My mom of course knew not to believe her. Thank goodness. So my FH said that he (we) would pay for the bridesmaid’s dresses and accessories himself. So at this point, the only thing that she is paying for is the groom’s cake and the gas to drive to the wedding. That’s it. If I had my way I would pay for those two things too, because I honestly can’t trust her. For all I know she’ll show up with a pink and purple polka-dotted cake.

She’s also tried to organize a shower at the church of satan (jk) and invited a bunch of people I don’t like, and a bunch of people I don’t know. She also complained about how some of these people are not invited to the wedding, and she said that anyone invited to the shower should be invited to the wedding, but space is limited. I only wanted people invited to the wedding to be at the shower also, but she took it upon herself to invite people I don’t know to the shower, and I know she will invite them (informally) to the wedding. So I had to ask my uncles to be “door guards” and now we’re telling everyone that they must have an invitation in order to get into the building. God help me if she prints and mails her own invites. I wouldn’t put it past her.

My FH ended up talking to her and at my request told her to cancel the shower, and not to worry about the bridesmaid’s dresses, that we are paying for them. He is also paying for the attire of his father, who is also going to be his best man. All of the traditional responsibilities of the family of the groom are completely gone. I expected that, but if we are paying for everything then they need to be grateful that we’re inviting them in the first place. A few days ago I almost said, “screw this, we’re eloping” but I knew my family wouldn’t like that… so I decided to go through with it. If we elope then she wins, and I am NOT about to let that happen.

She also called my mom to tell her that she doesn’t believe its God’s will that my FH marry me. She believes that I will cheat on him. She told my mother that. What? I have no history of doing such things in past relationships, and besides that it isn’t any of her business whether or not I turn tricks to pay for a crack habit as long as her son is happy. And he is. Until she starts in on me. Luckily he sticks up for me completely.

She also lied to my mom about how many times she had called me. There was some beef about whether or not I was ignoring her calls and stuff. I wasn’t. She claimed to have called my 4 or 5 times and left more than one voicemail. She called me twice, I answered once. The second time she called I had no service and left one (very long and very rude) voicemail, claiming that she was quite busy but needed to have a “heart-to-heart” with me. We never had a heart-to-heart (which I suspect was really going to be a talk about how she will kill me if I hurt her son and about having the wedding her way) because it was the same night that she lied to my mom about me so I had my FH talk to her and revoke the responsibilities we had trusted her with at first. Which wasn’t a lot, considering how involved other MIL’s have been in the weddings I’ve witnessed.

So after all this, my FH still thinks that his mother and I can be friends. I honestly would love that because I hate tension, and it would make me happy and my life a lot easier, but I think that she and can never understand each other enough to be close. I want to, but she refuses to respect me. If she could be respectful of me and not talk to me like a child or an animal, then I would be happy to talk with her about wedding plans and plans for the future. But she won’t treat me like an adult… so I don’t know what to do now.

I think that she is scared about him making his own decisions. I mean, it does mean that he is grown. And of course she’s known that he’s grown for a long time, but being married and totally different step and I think she’s just realizing that and she’s afraid of the change. I will be his number one priority and I think she’s afraid I’ll hold him back from his dreams or break his heart. I understand why she might be afraid, but that is no excuse for her behavior. If she is afraid then she needs to vocalize that by talking to me or my FH about her fears in an honest way.

Also after the drama with the bad rumor and the modeling I am pretty sure she doesn’t have the greatest opinion of my morals. She doesn’t want my FH dating me, period, and she definitely doesn’t want him marrying me. She doesn’t know anything good about me, and she won’t talk to me about anything so I can’t tell her about my good side. She only knows about the things she thinks are bad, even though my FH tells her good things about me all the time. She just won’t listen.

Now what?

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Your real horoscope ( rude)?

Wednesday, September 30th, 2009
goryrory1986 asked:


ARIES
You tend to be headstrong and deliberate in your actions. Basically you don’t give a fuck about anyone. Most people hate you but you couldn’t care less. You’re the type of person who would masturbate at a wedding.
TAURUS
Warm and caring are your most endearing characteristics. You get on well with most people because you’re bisexual. You hardly ever wear underwear and you constantly smell of piss.
GEMINI
Your star sign denotes an air of duality in your character. Simply, you’re a neurotic schizophrenic. A real fucking weirdo, the type of person who’d kill them self to win a bet.
CANCER
You have a businesslike attitude to life and a knack for making money. You’re an unscrupulous bastard who would sell relative’s limbs to buy a mobile phone. You are likely to be murdered.
LEO
The adventurous type, always looking for thrills and willing to try anything. In other words, stupid. You have the IQ of a garden snail and will never amount to anything. Most Leos are living on the welfare.
VIRGO
You like the good things in life and you know how to enjoy them. But you’re prone to bullshitting and you’re a cheap bastard. Virgo men are usually queers and the majority of Virgo women are whores.
LIBRA
You are the forgiving type and you don’t bear grudges. This makes you an asshole. For your entire life people will make a complete prick out of you. Nobody will go to your funeral.
SCORPIO
You are sharp, a quick thinker and good at puzzles. However these are your only good traits. You screw small animals and love picking your nose. You should become a stunt performer with no helmet.
SAGITTARIUS
You are gorgeous and divine and everybody wants to be like you. However other jealous signs will say that you are the romantic mushy type, soft-hearted and a lover of the arts. You are likely to import Dutch pornography and sex toys. Men even willing to rent Sleepless In Seattle to increase your odds for a romp in the sack.
CAPRICORN
You are deep and personal in your thoughts, the quiet type. A mean self-centered cunt and a closet homosexual. Your best friend is probably an altar boy.
AQUARIUS
You are the academic type and will probably end up working in the legal system. This means you are an absolute pervert, at the least a transvestite. Your ideal sexual partner is a Labrador puppy wearing fishnet tights.
PISCES
You are the eternal optimist, seeing the best of any situation. You have no grasp of reality and live in a dream world. Most people consider you to be the greatest living moron. You will continually fail. You’re a prick.

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Wedding Reception Ideas?

Wednesday, September 30th, 2009
Blessed1 asked:


Well the delimma is that my Fiance’ and I have planned to get married at the courthouse, which is alot of cheaper. However, we have decdied to purchase the tux and dress and have professional pictures taken at our reception we are planning. I am stuck on ideas for our reception. I need cheap but good foods, something that is presentable.I am thinking of having finger / snack type foods. I am also interested what your ideal ideas are for the cake and centerpieces. Music and alcohol ideas as well. I have considered choosing only three varieties of liqour,and a few bottles of each. I havent chosen which ones, but I hear that vodka is top demand. I need a few good simple mixed drink ideas- I have an aunt who is a former bartender, so thats not a problem. What ideas do you have for music b/c I’m honestly not interested in a DJ, it would cost more than I want to pay coming from here. Also gift ideas/favors.

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Wedding idea help PLEASE?

Wednesday, September 30th, 2009
Jessie D asked:


We are getting married on my parent’s farm in a field. One of the groomsmen works at a rental place so we can get a pretty good deal on tent, tables, & chairs. We are keeping it simple and having everybody bring a dish kinda potluck. (since we are on a tight budget)
Anyway my issues are I can’t seem to decide on a color theme (The wedding is in may 09). I am leaning towards a green but I’m not sure. Please don’t tell me pink (i’m not a pink kinda girl) Also I need some good yet simple and cheap decorating ideas for the area and tables.
Any help would be wonderful cuz I’m starting to stress out.
Thanks
P.S. I would really love a earthy, hippy type wedding.
We are asking our guest not to bring presants becasue its a potluck wedding.

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Sister may ruin my wedding?

Wednesday, September 30th, 2009
microwaveovenz asked:


My wedding is coming up my sister is ruining my wedding with the man of my dreams! I want to do something simple and casual and she openly HATES my choices, is having her own dress made (remember casual?), late for my shower and other pre-party wedding events, she belittles me in front of my family and friends. Basically she thinks the world revolves around her and for once (it is my wedding!) I would like to have fun and figure out a way to just ignore her. But then she shows up late for my shower, makes everyone wait for HER! It was suppose to be fun and CASUAL, she showed up in a cocktail dress. She also belittles me in front of my friends by, making fun of ex-boyfriends of mine, what I am wearing, pointing out a blemish, etc… beyond that she only talks about herself, how successful she is, how much money she makes, etc. And I know everyone can see through her (except my mother.)
It is just I am so irritated all the time I don’t know what to do! I want to have fun at my wedding! I have always tried to take the high road and not say anything because when I do she won’t talk to me for months – not so bad, I know! – but then my mother gets upset that we’re not talking…
Help! I know I am going to get a lot of, just have fun and over look it answers, but my question is, how? I go to yoga… I try to run away all my frustration, but then… (I am also afraid my fiance will loose his temper on her which might actually be a blessing in disguise…)
Any ideas on how to be the better person and still enjoy my wedding? When I walk away she follows…

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Guess the names of these songs and the band and win ten points?

Wednesday, September 30th, 2009
ANIMAL LUVER asked:


guess the names of the songs

Get them all correct and win ten ponits or whoever gets it the closest

1. Illuminate the NOs on their vacancy signs

2. No, I can’t help but to hear an exchanging of words:
“What a beautiful wedding!”

3. Sail away where no ball and chain
Can keep us from the roarin’ waves

4. The sea is wine red
This is the death of beauty

5. We’re only good for the latest trends
We’re only good cause you can have all those famous friends

6. Thank you It’s been another bloody Monday
And no one Is asking what you wanted anyway

7. I beg to dream and differ from the hollow lies
This is the dawning of the rest of our lives

8. I can see her eyes looking from a page in a magazine
Oh she makes me feel like I could be a tower

9. That God made her eyes for crying at birth
Then left the ground to circle the Earth

10. Nervous hands and anxious smiles
I can feel you breathing
number 6 might be kinda hard sorry!!!

but heres more to number 6

thank you its been another bloody monday and no one s asking what you wanted anyways
nein nein nein nein nein nein
SCREAM
till you fell it

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is summer scent going to have a good ending?

Wednesday, September 30th, 2009
Kanikapila asked:


its a korean drama

While in college, Min-woo loses his first love Un-hae in a car accident. Her heart is donated to Hye-won, a high school student suffering from heart problems. Many years later, Hye-won is a professional florist with a bright and healthy personality. She is happily settled and engaged to her long-time boyfriend, Jung-jae. Min-woo comes back from his studies in Italy, but is still grieving over his first love. Jun-ah, Jung-jaes sister, is in love with Min-woo, who was her senior in Italy. She comes back from her studies as well, to track Min-woo down. Hye-won sprains her ankle while hiking in the hills. She meets Min-woo who was hiking, and both spend a night in the hills where Min-woo takes care of Hye-won. During the chanced encounter, Min-woo finds many similarities between Hye-won and his deceased girlfriend, and is immediately attracted to her. Hye-won in turn notices that her heart beats in an uncontrollable manner when Min-woo is around, and is puzzled by the response. As Min-woo thinks Hye-won is married, they part ways without exchanging each others names and contact details. As fate would have it, Min-woo and Hye-won have another chanced meeting at the hometown (tea garden) of Un-hae. They spend an unforgettable day at the tea garden, both feeling a connection. But they do not manage to exchange any information again this time. But as destiny has charted out for them, Min-woo and Hye-won will meet again because of the Kara Holiday Resort project. Jung-jaes hotel chain buys over a Holiday Resort and is planning to have it renovated. Min-woos proposal (who is an Artistic Director for such projects) is accepted as the winning bid. When Min-woo and Hyw-won meet for the third time, both are formally introduced, and find out that they will be working on the project together. Min-woo also finds out that Hye-won is not married but engaged to Jung-jae. Min-woo sees his first love’s shadow in Hye-won, and believes that Hye-won is the second person to let him love again. And with the commencement of the Holiday Resort project, the love lives of the 4 leads start to get complicated. As both interact more during the project, Jung-jae notices the mutual attraction, and pushes for Hye-won to have their engagement ceremony. On the day of the engagement, Hye-won faints, and is admitted to the hospital. While she is hospitalized, Hye-won has a dream. She dreams that someone gave her encouragement, and a hand to lead her out of her coma. When she awakes, she thinks the person is Jung-jae. But later, when Hye-won eventually finds out that the person giving her those encouragements is Min-woo, she realizes that she is also in love with him. Against all odds, Min-woo and Hye-won end up together. However, as both Jung-jae and Jung-ah refuse to give up easily, their union becomes strained with the guilt and emotional baggage of their previous relationships. When it is eventually revealed that Un-haes heart is beating in Hye-won, it creates a further rift in their fragile relationship as both are confused whether their inexplicable attraction is due to this common link that they share, Un-haes heart. Min-woo is overcome with guilt on his treatment of Hye-won as Un-haes replacement. Hye-won is also unsure of her feelings for Min-woo, and as she does not wish to constantly remind Min-woo of Un-hae with her presence, Hye-won decides to break up with Min-woo. Min-woo tries relentlessly to win Hye-won back, but convinced that he is burdened with his deceased girlfriends shadow in her, Hye-won decides to go back to Jung-jae and marry him to let Min-woo give up on her entirely. On her wedding day, Hye-won finds out that Min-woo is leaving for Italy to continue his studies. And on his way to the airport, Min-woo drops by the hotel to take a last peek at Hye-won. Hye-won spots him with the distinct heartbeat she feels when Min-woo is around. She chases after his car and faints. Her condition has become critical as her body is rejecting the transplanted heart. In order to save her life, she has to go through a major operation. Hye-won is unwilling to have another operation, as she will possibly be bed-ridden for the rest of her life. Jung-jae begs Min-woo to convince Hye-won to undergo the operation, and Min-woo agrees to talk to her. Hye-won agrees to Min-woos plea, but in exchange requests that Min-woo leaves Korea. Jung-jae lies to Min-woo about the results of the operations, informing him that Hye-won died during the operation. But Hye-won actually survives the operation, and receives a man-made heart instead. 3 years later, Min-woo returns to Korea for another project. Both leads have another meeting, and Hye-wons heart starts to beat and respond the same way when she passes by Min-woo.

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HOW—Wedding on a budget? Greenville NC?

Wednesday, September 30th, 2009
Amanda asked:


HOW??? We are getting married May 30th this year and we have NOTHING. I recently lost my job so he is supporting me. Terrible time to get married i know. Our families cant help–at all. I want it outside, and simple. I dont know where to get things cheap so i can afford them. Any ideas??????? HELP!

p.s. without changing the date!! We ARE getting married on May 30th one way or another

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Need help figuring out this dream?

Wednesday, September 30th, 2009
atty2b2012 asked:


Twice in recent weeks–most vividly last night–I have dreamed that my soon-to-be husband has been badly injured and is dying.
I am keeping vigil at his bedside when he turns to me and tells me it is time for him to go. I cry and hold him and finally, despite his injury, he gets out of bed and begins to walk away. He tells me not to cry, and I answer that I am losing my love, how can I not cry? He begins to cry himself and then I wake up, sobbing.

I’m under a lot of stress with work and planning our wedding and keeping up with our son and maybe I’m just mentally exhausted, but this one really got a hold of me and won’t let go

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